I don’t really believe in new year’s resolutions, but I do think that the beginning of a new year is a good time to reflect on where your life is going and what course corrections you’d like to make. For me, as I reflected at the beginning of this new year, I realized that I was getting lost in the noise.
And by lost, I mean that I was losing sight of my core. I really believe that the path toward happiness, meaningful contribution to the world, connection to others, and making the most of the life you are given is by staying connected to who you are and what you are meant to do. I call this my “core.”
Steven Pressfield describes it like this:
We come into this world with a specific, personal destiny. We have a job to do, a calling to enact, a self to become. We are who we are from the cradle, and we’re stuck with it. Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.
But I find it really hard sometimes, as I know everyone does, to pay attention to my core when there is so much noise. We live in such a loud culture that seems to grow louder every day. Sometimes I get exhausted by the constant glut of information, ideas, opinions. And I particularly get tired of the noise when I feel like it is an artifice or it lacks true meaning (like Facebook humble brags or BuzzFeed click bait).
So the challenge I have given myself in this new year is to stay connected to my core — to not allow the noise and the fluff and the flashing lights that constantly swirl around us to move me off my path. And when the swirl starts to escalate and I begin to feel lost, I take a deep breath and remind myself of what, for me, is true and meaningful.
And perhaps Phil Buchanan from CEP would agree, given his recent post about quiet leadership. He suggests that perhaps it is the quiet, centered leaders (as opposed to the loud, hero leaders) who actually make the most progress toward social change:
There is a kind of quiet and collaborative leader who ultimately often gets results, in part because she (and sometimes he) recognizes that there is no miracle cure — that progress will be a slog and will need to involve and engage many diverse participants. Yes, to be sure, sometimes a high profile leader (or leaders) is necessary for success — and, very occasionally, leaders emerge who are both larger than life and elevate and amplify the voices of those around them (like Martin Luther King, Jr.). But often, paradoxically, high visibility for individual leaders makes meaningful progress tougher. It emphasizes the individual (or individuals) over the collective engagement of the many, including the intended beneficiaries. So it’s time for us to stop pretending there are easy answers that will be delivered by hero-leaders. And it’s time for us to roll up our sleeves and do the tough work that effectiveness requires.
I would take Phil’s thoughts even further and argue that perhaps these quiet leaders he describes have been more successful because they eschew the hype and the noise and instead connect with their core, with what they are supposed to be doing, what they were put here to accomplish. By focusing on what is true, instead of the hype, they make a much greater contribution.
And perhaps there is something here for all of us to learn. Perhaps paying attention to the noise, following meaningless links on social media, or chasing the latest fad only serves to get us further away from our core, from what we are supposed to be doing and creating. As Callie Oettinger wrote recently:
While social media has made sharing easier, allowing us to connect with the rest of the world, I often think about what would happen if people stopped trying to connect with the rest of the world and instead spent their time 1) creating value and 2) sharing value, rather than…creating crap and sharing crap.
So for me at least — and perhaps for you as well — it’s time to turn away from the noise and reconnect with our core. It’s time to get back to becoming what we were meant to be and creating what we were meant to create.
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