Do you suffer from the misguided belief that many nonprofit and philanthropic leaders do? The belief that you can save someone else – your clients, your staff, the world – before you save yourself.
The truth is that you can’t.
Because you have to first fully embrace and address your own needs before you have any hope of addressing the needs of others.
I have learned – both from personal experience and from my clients – that the savior syndrome under which so many social change leaders operate is incredibly damaging.
The truth is that not one of us can save another person. We can listen, offer support and guidance, lend a helping hand, but we cannot – and this is the hard part for so many nonprofit leaders to swallow – save another person.
We are all on our own journey – full of challenges, missteps, hopefully a lot of joy, always some sorrow. But it is our individual journey to create and to live.
And the biggest contribution you can make to those you hope to serve through your social change work is to first save yourself.
So what does saving yourself look like?
- Putting your mental and physical health above ALL
- Making sure every single day includes some JOY – moments where you feel alive, passionate, in the zone
- Waiting until you feel completely full yourself before you give to another
- Recognizing, on a daily basis, how truly amazing you are
Ultimately, saving yourself means putting your health, wellness, and joy above all others.
What a radical concept, right? Yes it is.
But I believe we have no hope of helping others step into their power until we each, as individuals, step into our own power.
So, I challenge you – how can you save yourself today?