Last week I gave you a quick tool for making hard decisions.
But did you know that when you’re agonizing over a tough decision what’s actually happening is that your brain and your gut are at war? Your gut knows the right path forward, but your brain is throwing up all kinds of roadblocks, usually of the fear-based variety.
You never want to make a decision based on fear, because when you do you are solidly rooting yourself in the land of scarcity.
Think about it for a second. When you are facing a decision and your brain starts to get going, it will spew things at you like this:
“If you don’t do this, all your funders will go away.”
“If you do that, you’ll never find another board member.”
“If you don’t do X, your competitors will swoop in and take all the opportunities”
“If you do Y, you’ll lose respect from influencers in your field.”
Every single one of these potential outcomes that your brain cooks up are rooted in scarcity thinking:
not enough funders,
not enough board members,
not enough opportunities,
not enough influence…and the list goes on.
I get it. These fears seem SO REAL. They can appear so big and overwhelming that you have no choice but to follow where they lead.
But you ALWAYS have a choice. That’s your inherent power.
In any moment you can choose the path of scarcity, or you can choose the path of abundance.
So instead of blindly following the voice of fear, look for that second voice — the voice of your gut. It is much calmer, less angsty than it’s fear-based cousin. It knows the right path — the path based on expansion, growth, opportunity, abundance (rather than fear and lack).
To hear the voice of your gut, you first have to quiet the much louder, more insistent fear-based voice.
You do that by finding some space away from your staff, your board, your funders, your friends and family. Time by yourself to clear your thoughts and drop into your gut. Maybe you find that space through:
- A solitary cup of coffee on your back porch, or
- Lying peacefully in bed right after you wake up, or
- A short meditation, or
- A walk in nature, or
- Something else entirely…
There are countless ways to find space that is yours alone, and once you do, you can drop into your gut and ask:
“What is my right next step?”
If you are still — and let any fear-based thoughts float right on by — soon you will hear the strong voice of your gut pipe up with something that feels exactly right to you.
That’s when you know, you’ve moved beyond fear into something much bigger, more energizing, and more abundant.
Something that is waiting for you to offer it space to take hold.
Give it a try. And let me know how it goes
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